ON THE SUBJECT SOULMATES

 

Dr. Carolyn Miller (author of "Soulmates"), a repost from Relationships and Life ReInvention Coaching:

People readily agree that their relationships are more important than their careers.

Yet we spend at least 17 years preparing for our careers... and zero training on "growing relationship skills for lasting love."

Many people even expect Real Love to "just happen," even when their results say otherwise.

Jim Rohn said it best:
"If you keep doing what you've always done.
You'll always get what you already have."


Aileen Santos (Relationships and Life ReInvention Coaching), repost:

(Many people) mistake "chemistry" for a soul mate connection,
when in fact they may have very little in common
with the person they feel instantly attracted to.

A (real) soul mate relationship is characterized by things like
a shared life path, a sense of comfort & ease,
and a genuine liking of each other.

While you may experience times of excitement & lust with your soul mate,
(your) RELATIONSHIP is NOT DEFINED by these moments.

 

 

STOP!!

Stop! How often do you think about how fortunate you are? Honestly, how often do you stop and imagine yourself in other, less fortunate people´s shoes? Have you ever imagined what life might be like for that person walking by outside, as you´re sitting in that coffee shop having a nice hot cup of coffee, waiting for your friend to arrive? That woman just walking by for example, maybe she´s got a life much like your own ....

OR maybe she has been unemployed for such a long time that she finds it too hard to believe in herself and the "thousand possibilities and positive challenges" life should bring and that she desperately has been waiting for, for ages, or maybe she´s on her way to the unemployment office,  ashamed even for the situation she´s in, feeling like an outsider, trying to hide the state of things to everyone she knows. Or maybe she has a husband who is unemployed and depressed, maybe she works three shifts as she has got many mouths to feed.....

She might also feel lost and lonely, no friends, no family and nobody to love, who would love her in return.  Or maybe she just got the news that she is very seriously ill, that it could be fatal, or that she has got just a short time to live....she might be thinking of her small children at home, how she will ever be able to leave them and what she should tell them and when, and how she ever will be able to live through something that ends in the inevitable....

Or maybe her child was in an accident and everything that was normal just one hour ago will never ever be that again ... in fact ... it will never happen again...

Or maybe she lost a child today ... or yesterday..... just like that ... SNAP!

(c) Ann-Christine Lindström

Infantile

embarrasingly plump

or exaggeratedly polite

Silent

you let your better half speak

as you nod and smile

and make some sounds

of exclamation

A cross to bear

infinitly infantile

Facebook is a Social Media - so I have a Question

I´ve been on Facebook for a good five years now and remember the excitement of the early days: Quizzes were taken, comments were given, gifts were frequently given and recieved and games were played. In the course of time I  and many of my facebook friends have lost interest in much of that, but at least personally, the status updates and photos shared are much appreciated.

I can´t do anything about the fact though that there are one kind of updates that I find somewhat irritating. Yes, I´m sorry but I do! Lovers and couples stating how much they love their partner, upon which the partner comments how much she/he loves him/her. They´re in the same house at that very moment, probably even sitting next to each other in the same room. What´s the point of these updates?

What about the rest of us on facebook that first of all think we KNOW they love each other without them stating it over and over again,  and would like them to write something of interest for that forum of people called "facebook-friends"?

Why not keep facebook as a forum for sharing details from your life, why not inspire, share thoughts you have, things you wonder about, funny thoughts, witty thoughts, nonsense thoughts ...anything... Just don´t make it impossible for facebook-friends to comment! As an outsider, you can´t comment on people´s love declarations. What would you say? "Well done you two! "...??  It is private and it excludes other people, in fact if an outsider tries to comment, it will inevitably come out either ironic or sarcastic!

What I want to say is this: There are different forums for different contents in our Social Media and Cyber Contact Age!

Thank you for reading! :)

(c) Ann-Christine Lindström

The Deepest Sorrow

Souls mate
flowing together
colours
of the sparkling rainbow
blinding everyone

dazzling in its beauty

Holding hands
arms around
waist
fingers running through hair
carressing cheek
chin and lips

Bodies interlaced
fluids of life
unite
like oil and water
pushing away from
one another

A dark hole
the deepest sorrow
A grave
they never visit
There are no flowers
there is no stone
nothing to remember

(c) Ann-Christine Lindström

It is

It is 

to connect

by mind and soul

It is

to feel

the situation of things

It is 

to give

whatever is needed

It is 

to love

(c) Ann-Christine Lindström

Poems of Illusion

Love was real
It filled your tummy
with butterflies
made your heart nervous
or skip a beat
or sing with joy
or with excitement
Sparkling eyes
smile ever present
upon your lips

Until another day
of one thing
leading to another
all that was left was
your poems
of illusion